Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Back so soon?

That's the first thing they asked me when I showed up at the Bloated Pregnant Ladies Anonymous meeting.

Yep, I'm 9 weeks pregnant. Surprise! When we told Lily last week she was so excited and asked a few questions. Then she looked at Amelia and very skeptically said, "'Melia's still really young." Tell me about it!

Turns out the mini-pill is not so effective once you start weaning. I knew I should have kept breast-feeding Amelia til she was 3 (kidding, Sara, kidding...By the way, I'm totally waiting for my bronze boob trophy!) After Amelia was born, my doctor told me, "when you wean her, give us a call and we'll call in a prescription for regular birth control pills for you." Silly me, I assumed (never assume; it only makes an ASS of U and ME) that meant once she was completely weaned, not once I started weaning her. Ladies, learn from my ignorance.

After a couple of days of freaking out, we've gotten used to the idea and we have a game plan in place. It's not that we didn't want another kid, it's just the timing was sooner than we'd planned. I realize that a lot of people plan their kids this close together (2 years and 4 months) on purpose, but for parents that are used to having a mostly independent 4 year old to accompany a newborn, it's going to be challenging. And Amelia's still so small, it's hard to imagine her not being my baby anymore.

I think the single most scary thing for Dan and I is having a terrible-two and an infant at the same time. I'll be trying to nurse the baby and Amelia will be screaming and throwing her pink sippy cup of milk across the room because she wants the blue sippy cup with water and she'll be super pissed because Mama won't get up and get it for her right now. Sounds super fun! I guess I'll just have be become proficient at mobile nursing and doing other things one-handed.

Other concerns include the fact that our health insurance only covers maternity in the event of complications or a sick baby. So if everything goes smoothly, we have to pay 100% of the bill. In Utah, the only way you can get maternity coverage is on a group plan through your employer. Since we're both self-employed, we had to settle for an individual plan. It seems like it should be illegal to exclude maternity, but I guess there's so much breeding going on in this state that the insurance companies would lose their shirts if they offered individual plans with maternity coverage! Fortunately, both the hospital and the physician offer a 30% discount if you're footing the bill yourself. And we have an AFLAC supplemental policy that will pay out some cash for the birth. We've pushed the pause button on our debt snowball and we're starting a Baby Fund where we'll put all of our extra money until we have enough to cover the birth. We also have to save for a different car. Our two Honda Accords just aren't wide enough to accommodate 3 car seats (by state law Lily has to be in a booster seat until she's 8).

This baby is definitely wanted, it's just different from the other two where we had it all planned out. Dan's biggest disappointment? "Man, what a rip-off! The best part about trying to get pregnant is all the sex and now I won't even get that!" I'm in the yucky morning sickness stage right now, and although I am fortunate enough to never throw up, I feel nauseated all day and want to just lay in bed. It should pass in about 2 or 3 weeks and by then I'll probably start feeling a lot more excited.

My first doctor's appointment is next week. It will probably be too early to hear the heartbeat, but I'll be sure to keep you posted on any updates. I've added a couple of widgets to the sidebar. I like the top one because the graphic is cool, but the bottom one is more informative. You can click on it and it will tell you how the baby is developing. Perfect for the Nana types!


Lori Gerten said...

Stupid insurance. You do make an excellent point about not covering births because Utah bears lots of chilren all the time!! I wonder if that's there rationale. Still stupid!!

Congrats! Now we have close kids!!

Becky in Wyo said...

I'm glad you've dispensed with the secret so soon. I'm sure it will be outweighed by the benefit of commiserating with other women about being pregnant again. Oh, baby! You have my undying love and a big Mack-truck-monkey-load of sympathy.

Josh and Jenn said...

Congratulations Sue! If anyone can handle three kids it's you. Is it wrong that I think this one is going to be a girl too?!!! I can't wait to see macho Dan with his three little girls!

Spymommy said...

I know you can do this! Don't forget - Chris and I are 13 months apart! NOW THAT IS CLOSE!!

Hannah and Chris Lee are only 22 months apart. It was hard for about 4 months. But you have Lily and I know she will be a huge help.

I'm so, so happy for you! Maybe I need to get on the mini pill and be a wet nurse for someone?

Anonymous said...

I was up early this morning and have already started reading your widget. Fun!

Love, Your Mom

Kris said...

Congratulations Sue and Dan! Thanks for the email and sharing the news. That is exciting. I think the spacing will be perfect (I"m biased, it is the same as our kids). I have always felt it was more "terrible threes" than "terrible twos" and it's nice to have them close enough to really play a lot together. I'm excited for you!!

Manina said...

Congrats to you! As a mother of five little ones under 8 I assure you, you can do it. It will be tough at times but you have a good spread with Lily being six. She always loves to play with Drew when she comes over so I know she'll be a lot of help for you. I am excited!

Jen & Daz said...

Congrats you guys! That is so fun! Look forward to the many stories that this adventure brings!

As for having Amelia and baby so close...from the looks of things Lily is an excellent big sister and will be a wonderful help to you! Here's hoping it's a boy!!!

Hil said...

Congratulations Sue! I think it's awesome! ☺
We'll be in Utah this month and I'd love to introduce our girls... e-mail me!

P.S. Don't hate me - I tagged you!

The Queen Vee said...

It's going to be great because you two make beautiful kids together. I think it's a boy and if not that then a girl. Hope you start to feel better soon, being tired and nauseated, ugh, the pits!

Sara said...

Hee Hee!

First, I am so very excited for you! We'll get to be big fat pregos together all summer long! YEA!

And since I have a 3 and 4 year gap between my others and am now facing a not-quite-18 month-spread, I TOTALLY understand the panic! It will pass... I am feeling more and more prepared and although the thought is still overwhelming, I am getting more excited at the idea.

I have also become an expert on uber-close siblings... Here are a few to make you feel better... One of my Book Clubb friends has kids 14 months apart... yep, planned (now that's just suicidal!) My neighbor friend, who just had a baby in February (as in of 2008) just announced she is expecting again in December... yeah... quick math- that's 11 months! Apparently their "farewell party" before her husband's vasectomy cut the deadline a little too closely. Oops! So Irish twins! (That's when they are born in the same calendar year!) AND here's the record, as far as I know... my Visiting Teacher has boys born 8 months apart.. EIGHT MONTHS! End of March and middle of December. HOW, you ask? First off, her husband takes full and due credit for his early eagerness (he claims he got shocked and dirty looks for years!), and then their younger son was born 8 weeks premature. Wah-lah! 8 month spread...

My only consolation here is that all of these women are somehow remarkably sane... at least now... let's hope WE can be so fortunate!

So, here's to the Mommy-Shift Paradigm that came just in time to benefit both of us by preparing us for heavenly surprises! :)

And you'll have to come see me to get your Bronze Booby Award... maybe then I can convince you to get together! :)

Anderson Zoo Keepers said...

Mine are 22 months apart and 13 months apart. And for a few years there it was rough going, but now that they can buckle themselves into their seat belts and take themselves potty - we're on the upswing. Now it's actually really nice. My biggest piece of advice is to become a bedtime nazi. No matter what else you do... enforce bedtime with an iron fist as fast as possible. It's the single biggest key to your sanity.

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